A New Year’s resolution is something that goes in one Year and out the other ~ Anonymous
Many people look forward to the New Year for a new start on old habits ~ Anonymous
Good resolutions are simply checks that men draw on a bank where they have no account ~ Oscar Wilde
As New Year’s eve is approaching, many of us will indulge in a bit of navel gazing. We will look at our flaws, faults, bad habits, and failed plans or ambitions, and resolve to do better in the future. While we all know – from past experience – that these resolutions are far easier to make than they are to keep, but it doesn’t stop us to go through this ritual every year, it doesn’t stop us from promising ourselves a more successful, more productive and happier year than the last one.
I’m interested in why we fail at our resolutions every year, and find a better strategy at keeping New Year’s Resolutions.
What are the most common New Year’s Resolutions?
Christmas season is over. Now, you have get through the New Year celebration. Are you prepared?
Do you have an extra tip to add to the list?
How’s your New Year’s resolution coming along?
According to McGill psychology professor Richard Koestner, “New Year’s resolutions are doomed to fail … Most of us find that we fail at our resolutions year after year … Why are we so terrible at reaching our resolutions and why do we persist making the same resolution even though we failed the last three years?
Then, the professor recommends to set a specific, measurable goal — and state it in positive terms, as something you want to approach rather than avoid.
Then, he says, “even if you follow all of the standard goal-setting tips, you are still likely to fail thanks to ‘limited self-regulatory strength’.”
Koestner’s research suggests, there are two things people can do to overcome willpower limitations:
– like a serious actor, question your motivation. “Unfortunately, many of the resolutions we set are actually things we feel others want us to do or things we feel guilty about not having done.”
– simply setting the goal is not enough. Bolster your goal with specific plans about when, where and how you will take steps to reach it. Ideally, your plan should make the pursuit of the goal almost automatic so that you don’t have to keep relying on that elusive limited self-regulatory strength.
And, he recommends us not to evaluate ife too much in terms of goals met or missed.
What is this thing called “self-regulatory strength”?
Self-regulatory strength refers to a person’s capacity to exercise self-control so as to alter their typical way of responding.
People fail to attain their New Year resolutions and other personal goal pursuits because …
… they lack clear, specific goals or conflicting goals; thus making it difficult to keep the goal in focus.
… they fail to monitor their progress toward the goal; goal pursuit without close monitoring is more likely to fail.
… they do not possess sufficient self-regulatory strength to maintain goal pursuit in the face of obstacles and distractions.
We need to understand that to keep your resolve is knowing that changing ingrained behavior is hard to do, especially when we’ve “built communities that set up reinforcement of bad behavior.”
what 2010 meant to you? Personally and professionally, what have you achieved this year? What were your proudest moments?
[To Be Continued]
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